Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Blessed Bernardo de Hoyos: Mystical same-sex marriage with Jesus

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Blessed Bernardo de Hoyos: Mystical same-sex marriage with Jesus

“The Mystical Marriage of Blessed Fr. Bernardo de Hoyos y de Sena, SJ”

Blessed Bernardo Francisco de Hoyos y de Seña is an 18th-century Spanish priest who wrote vividly of his mystical gay marriage to Jesus. He was beatified in 2010 and his feast day is tomorrow (Nov. 29).

Bernardo (1711-1735) was 18 when he had a vision of marrying Jesus in a ceremony much like a human wedding. He described it this way:

Always holding my right hand, the Lord had me occupy the empty throne; then He fitted on my finger a gold ring.... “May this ring be an earnest of our love. You are Mine, and I am yours. You may call yourself and sign Bernardo de Jesus, thus, as I said to my spouse, Santa Teresa, you are Bernardo de Jesus and I am Jesus de Bernardo. My honor is yours; your honor is Mine. Consider My glory that of your Spouse; I will consider yours, that of My spouse. All Mine is yours, and all yours is Mine. What I am by nature you share by grace. You and I are one!”
(quoted from “The Visions of Bernard Francis De Hoyos, S.J.” by Henri Bechard, S.J.)

Bernardo’s vision inspired artist-priest William Hart McNichols to paint an icon of Bernardo’s wedding with Jesus.

“I was so taken with this profoundly beautiful account of Jesus’ mystical marriage with Bernardo, including all the symbols of a human wedding,” McNichols wrote.

Bernardo de Hoyos
(Wikimedia Commons)
Official Roman Catholic accounts emphasize how Bernardo went on to become “the first apostle of the Sacred Heart of Jesus in Spain,” but the church downplays the queer vision that inspired him. Bernardo’s marriage with Christ can justifiably be interpreted as a “gay Jesus” story.

Bernardo spent nine years in the Jesuit formation process and was ordained in January 1735. His pastoral ministry was cut short later that same year when he died of typhus on Nov. 29, 1735. Some call him a “boy saint” because he only lived to be 24. His dying words indicate that he felt the presence of his Spouse Jesus at the end. Bernardo’s last words were, “Oh, how good it is to dwell in the Heart of Jesus!”

After his death Bernardo’s reputation for holiness continued to grow, but church politics slowed his path to sainthood until recently. His beatification ceremony was held in April 2010 in the northwestern Spanish province of Valladolid, where Bernardo spent his entire life.

While the Catholic church refuses to bless same-sex marriages, the lives and visions of its own saints tell a far different story -- in which Christ the Bridegroom gladly joins himself in marriage with a man.

This article is available in Spanish at:

Beato Bernardo de Hoyos: El matrimonio místico entre personas del mismo sexo con Jesús (Santos Queer)
This post is part of the LGBT Saints series by Kittredge Cherry at the Jesus in Love Blog. Saints, martyrs, mystics, heroes, holy people, deities and religious figures of special interest to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) and queer people and our allies are covered on appropriate dates throughout the year.

It is also part of the Queer Christ series series by Kittredge Cherry at the Jesus in Love Blog. The series gathers together visions of the queer Christ as presented by artists, writers, theologians and others.

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Kittredge Cherry said...

Thanks, Łukasz, for these beautiful expressions of the mystical marriage! Some of the lyrics remind me of the Song of Songs in the Bible. You’re right that many mystics envisioned mystical marriage with Christ. I think that artist-priest Father Bill McNichols found Bernardo’s vision to be unique because it included a very specific wedding ceremony with a gold ring. I like your analysis of the church’s problems in applying these visions to contemporary issues of same-sex marriage and women priests.

Trudie said...

I am signed up for Chris Glaser's course on "Sexuality and Christianity" being offered through UFMCC, which starts this Saturday. As a result, I find this post extremely relevant.

Terence Weldon said...

I have now posted a fuller description of my own experience (which I referred to in an earlier comment) at Queering the Church: "My Experience as “The Bridegroom of Christ”"

Kittredge Cherry said...

Trudie, how did the Chris Glaser course go? I would love to hear what you learned about sexuality and Christianity.

Terry, thank you for sharing your own powerful, beautiful experience with Christ the Bridegroom. The world needs to hear these stories of love. These experiences may be rare -- but not as rare as I once thought. It seems that people tend to keep these kinds of visions to themselves, for obvious reasons. But saints, mystics and others before us have known the joys and burdens of being a spouse of Christ.

Anonymous said...

There are many Catholic saints and mystics who experienced a similar form of "mystical marriage", so called because of an intense spiritual union, arrived at only after much effort, and with a lot of grace.

There are no homosexual connotations. God loves souls.

Kittredge Cherry said...

Indeed there are many mystical marriages -- some envisioned as same-sex marriages and some as heterosexual marriages. We are free to draw our own conclusions about their implications for today’s same-sex couples.