Shrine of St. Valentine in Whitefriar Street Carmelite Church in Dublin, Ireland (Photo by Blackfish, Wikimedia Commons)
Marriage equality has a surprising role model in Saint Valentine, a 3rd-century Roman priest who defied the restrictive marriage laws of his era to bless couples who were forbidden to marry. His feast day is, of course, today -- Valentine’s Day (Feb. 14).
Saint Valentine was not gay, but he put love above the law to perform outlaw marriages in his day. He can be an inspiration for the current movement to legalize same-sex marriage.
The Roman Emperor Claudius II thought that he would get more and better soldiers if men were not allowed to marry, so he issued a decree outlawing marriage. Saint Valentine continued to perform weddings in secret until he was arrested and executed for defying the ban on such marriages. Legend has it that he fell in love with a woman who visited him in prison, sending her a letter that ended “From your Valentine” -- the original prototype for today’s Valentine greeting cards.
Saint Valentine also did weddings for Christian couples at a time when the church was persecuted. Now the tables are turned and conservative Christians are sometimes persecuting LGBT people. They are among the most visible opponents of marriage equality.
But brave clergy are following in the footsteps of St. Valentine. They pioneered the blessing of same-sex relationships long before it was on the secular political agenda and continue to face punishment for defying marriage laws. For example, Troy Perry performed what may be the first modern same-sex wedding in 1969, a year after he founded the LGBT-affirming Metropolitan Community Churches. In the latest case, lesbian minister Rev. Jane Spahr was censured on Feb. 21 by the Presbyterian Church for marrying 16 same-sex couples during the brief period when such marriages were legal in California.
While Saint Valentine is not known to have performed same-sex weddings, church history does provide powerful examples of same-sex couples to inspire today’s lovers -- whether or not we have the right to marry. Links to some of them are listed below. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Boris and George: United in love and death
Brigid and Darlughdach: Brigid loved her female soulmate
Sergius and Bacchus: Ancient Roman soldiers and gay lovers
Symeon and John: The holy fool and the hermit who loved each other
Wenceslas and Podiven: Good (gay) King Wenceslas
David and Jonathan: Love between men in the Bible
Hildegard of Bingen and Richardis: Mystic who loved women
John Henry Newman and Ambrose St. John: Did the Pope beatify a gay saint?
Perpetua and Felicity: Friends to the end
Polyeuct and Nearchus: Brothers by affection
Ruth and Naomi: Love between women in the Bible
Saint Valentine and Same Sex Marriage (The Den)
St. Valentine: The politics of love, rights and same-sex marriages (Nigerian Voice)
Valentine’s Day: Same Sex Lovers in Church History (Queering the Church)
A Quiet Struggle Within the Gay Marriage Fight (New York Times)
“David and Jonathan” by Ryan Grant Long
"Saints Perpetua and Felicity"by Brother Robert Lentz, OFM. © 1996,www.trinitystores.com
“Sts. Sergius and Bacchus” by Plamen Petrov, St. Martha Church, Morton Grove, IL
This post is part of the LGBT Saints series by Kittredge Cherry at the Jesus in Love Blog. Saints, martyrs, mystics, heroes, holy people, deities and religious figures of special interest to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) and queer people and our allies are covered on appropriate dates throughout the year.